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Have you ever been betrayed by a so called friend, have they walk out because they were too insecure that they couldnt express their feelings. It hits you like a mack truck that someone you thought care about you could so easily walk away with out the slightest guilt. Before you think of trying to reconnect with these types of people you need to figure out a few things. First of all you must determine whether your failed friendship should be repaired. An unhealthy relationship is not worth repairing if it forces you to compromise your principles or overthrow your self-respect. You have the right to ask a friend to change if he/ she is making you feel less cared about, less respected, or even worried. Realizing that a friendship no longer works can be a positive step.Please don't fall into the trap of believing that if you lose a friend you'll never find another. The opposite may be true: you may not make another friend until you sever your association with an unhealthy person. The point is that just as good friendships can boost your sense of belonging, bad friendships can undermine your security and self-worth.

Basically you may not feel it now but that person walking out on your friendship was a good thing. Stay clear of unhealthy people, they usually fail at most things in their lives, your friendship isnt the only thing they are not good at.

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SweeT

822 Days Ago

This is a great ValSecret. I believe as we get older we need to pay attention to who our friends are a little more closely if things seem off. I have had to let go of two female friends this year for the first time, ever. They took their insecurities out on me where I had been a loving, supportive, and positive friend for years. I knew they had some personal problems to battle inside but never did I think I would be target because I was happy. And I created my own happiness. Things may not always be great but it is my outlook, my energy, and my willingness to remain optimistic that keeps me in a happy state of mind. I think they took it like I was Miss. Perfect-Life Happy Gal so I got trashed by them. Yeah, no. I just took the bad things that happened, learned from them, and moved on with a smile. Idiots they were. Anyway, at first I was very hurt and shocked. All this time I was listening to them, being there for them, and I get this? Then that became anger and I became questionable to a lot of friends. If these girls betrayed me, would the others? That left me in a undesirable state far from what I usually am. Then I picked myself up. I was not going to allow these two unstable insecure children get in the way of me, my life, or tarnish my other friendships. I was not going to punish others because of them. If someone can't be a positive, healthy addition to my life as I would be to them, they are out. Plain and simple. Get rid of the energy vampires, the insecure and most of all the unstable. Crazy only speaks crazy so let those groups retreat on their own little island and leave all of us alone.

lanielane

823 Days Ago

;) Some people just out grow each other too. Our friends are the ones that we expect will stand by us through thick and thin. When we are going through hard times, we ask that they be "like a bridge over troubled waters". If we cannot count on our friends to pull us through, then who can we count on? Having friends that inspire us to rise to higher and greater levels is an awesome gift. I say surround yourself with people that inspire you to do better and inspire your friends as well. It is a profound truth that the people we hang out will shape the path that we travel. Some friendships are fixable. Communicating without pointing fingers and feeling safe to share feelings is tough but can be done. It can take a couple of talks, but in the end sometimes you come out with a stronger friendship.

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