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What I am about to write has been an issue for some time but now it has gone to the level of out of control. I am an Irish woman. I am American, I am proud but I am also Irish. Very Irish. New Irish. I have very fair skin, green eyes, dark blonde hair that I lighten, faint freckles, and cool toned to the max. So here is the big deal. I am sick, angry, annoyed, and fed up of people insulting my skin color. I get jokes-comments nonstop such as: You should be a cast member in Twilight, all you need is pink contacts and you'd look albino, do you ever see the sun, you really need a tan, you can blind someone with your skin, wow! your the palest person I have ever met and I thought I was pale, YOUR SO PALE, your practically translucent, TANNING BED!, you really should get a spray tan, etc etc etc etc. Some of these comments are from complete strangers!! Last time I checked it was not acceptable to insult others skin color. So when has it become ok to insult those who are from Celtic or other light countries that have a low sun strength? Which equals lower color pigmentation or melanin. I cannot help it. I cannot help where my family is from. When I went to Ireland this past summer, I looked like any other local. In the skin color, the eyes, the face shape, it was clear I was Irish. I could wear a bathing suit and not get laughed at. What makes me more ill about this is that I am from the Mid-Atlantic. It's not like I am in Florida getting made fun of and even if I was, that still is not ok with me. My Irish friends tell me to ignore peoples ignorance or tell them to f-off, my husband tells me he loves it and that to him I look like an angel, but still it get's under my fair skin. So my ValSecret is respect everyone's skin color, where they come from, their culture...whatever it takes. Respect. This country is a melting pot of lovely heritages from all over the world. Instead of picking on someone, ask where their family is from, learn a thing or two, but never insult anyone's color, light-dark or anywhere in between.

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SweeT
817 Days Ago

Thank you both so much for your comments. I am glad to know there are others that feel this way. Kinda funny the pic I posted attached to this secret, I was spray tanned. So you can only imagine how fair I really am. I just have to own my color and maybe have to become more sharp when someone has something negative to say about it. :)

Val
818 Days Ago

Amen Sister. I've had the same problem when I was younger and sometimes even to this day. My decent is Italian and I too have very fair skin. When I was a teenager people use to call me Casper the Ghost, Vampire, and plastic. People can be cruel and don't realize that we live in a society that we consider acceptance of our appearance a big deal and if it's not accepted it takes a toll to our self-esteem. I realized that I can't be to everyone's liking. I may be pale to some people and perfectly colored to others. I heart this ValSecret. Next time someone says something to you, just tell them, I love the color of my skin, in a very serious tone. Sometimes people need to open their eyes and see that they are being inappropriate and disrespecting you. With telling people that I love the tone of my skin, people don't make fun of me anymore

angel711
818 Days Ago

I can't agree with you more!!!!! I am half Italian/half Irish. . My Dad is the Italian with the dark complexion and my Mom is the Irish one. . Blonde hair/blue eyes the whole nine. So, I have the dark hair/eyes but I am extremely pale compared to most people. I mean, I have light skin/dark hair on my body so you can imagine the frusturation of having to shave ALL THE TIME. . Because you notice everything on my skin. I have beauty marks/freckles. And when I am in certain camera light. . I disappear or I become like Casper the friendly ghost.. But I know that there are things about me that set me apart from everyone else because I have a unique look and so do you. Who cares what others think. You are BEAUTIFUL/you have a man who loves you just the way you are. . so, don't let them get to you. . I know from personal experience that it hurts when people talk about you but you have to shrug it off because people will talk no matter what. Besides, what we learn in life is that there are some things that we can control and some things that we are just born with and if it's not what people are used to and is unique then so what. It gives you character. You are BEAUTIFUL and shouldn't sweat it :-)



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