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I have been in serious relationships in the past and am now currently dating. I have seen it all ladies, so consider this one the most valuable ValSecret in the *Dating* category, because it comes from experience of trial and error. We women sometimes don't understand why men lose interest or even break up with you even when things seem good. You have common interests, you are both very attracted to one another, you have a good time when you go out together. Okay, you have this guy in the palm of your hand right? Not necessarily.
Now, let's just say you are on a date with him and you complain about the food, the service, the table you are sitting at. Now, you may think, 'well, if the food is bad, I can complain about it'. Right? Wrong.
Men look for a few fundamental things, besides the fact that he needs to be physically attracted to you as well as be kept interested. They are more simple than you think. If a man is dating and is looking to find a woman to get serious with, he is searching for one key word,
P O S I T I V I T Y.
Most men who date are someone that are ready to add romance into their lives. Relationships are work, and if someone tells you otherwise they are lying to you. In times of the good, the bad or the ugly, in a relationship, you need to nurture it. Men can be under pressure with their work or their personal lives. Men feel the most pressure with their work due to traditional old fashioned values that they are the bread winners. When dating, men are normally the ones to court women. When this happens, it is a sign that the man is telling the woman, I want to take care of you. If it's for the hour dinner date, weekend getaway, or lifetime marriage, a man feels responsible to *take care* of his girl. The question is, how do you give in return? How can I show him I want to do the same for him? What will make him think I am the one he wants to *take care*? What would make him want to stay with me in a long serious relationship?
So what is my ValSecret;
A woman who is positive, has a great smile, loves to laugh and be herself but can also be intelligent and serious is the key to his heart.
A man needs someone that will make him feel good when he feels stressed, can make a bad day a good day by being sweet, and simply be able to make him smile. When it's all set and done; looks, success, can come and go, but these simple elements that I mention above can be shared with him for an eternity. Now that's a keeper!
P.S. If a man doesn't respond to this with pure excitement and wants to be serious with you, I will tell you this, Forget Him. He isn't ready to get into a healthy relationship.
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