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How to Tell When You are the Other Woman
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In light of all of the recent Tiger Woods drama, I have heard mistresses talk about not knowing he was married and it was like someone hit me over the head. He's a very famous person and we are in the information age. If you start dating someone, there is no reason you can't figure out if something is fishy before you carry on a lengthy relationship. Remember, being the other woman is no better than being the man cheating. All of these women on television getting their 15 minutes for being a mistress are not likely to become celebrities, find a better job or even get married anytime soon. Here are a few tips:

1. He says he is "separated" or "in the middle" of a divorce. Tell him to call you when he has completed the process. Divorces can be lengthy and often times separated couples go through marriage counseling and attempt to resolve things.
2. If you think something is up, Google him. If he's got social media profiles with happy family pictures - RUN!
3. You can't see his house or he wants to meet at a hotel/motel.
4. He has a tan line on his ring finger.
5. He only goes to dimly lit places directly after work.
6. He rarely talks about himself or only talks about work with no personal information.

Most importantly, if you don't feel like you can trust him - don't bother. A relationship without trust is a pointless nightmare for everyone involved.

Maybe he was honest and told you he was married, but he promises he'll divorce her for you. Let me explain how this works - if he'll divorce her for you, he will divorce you for the next pretty young thing that bats her eyes at him.

Men are not bad people and they are not dogs anymore than women are. We are all mammals and we have needs, but when we make a promise to be faithful, we should keep that promise. If you or your man find that they can't keep that promise, leave the relationship BEFORE something happens.

What shocks me about the situation is not just that Mr. Woods did what he did, but that so many women found it acceptable to sleep with a very publicly married man. Let's start having respect for each other as women and stop claiming to be victims of the "awful man who cheated". I am not condoning anyone's actions regarding infidelity, but if we all respected one another a little bit more, this wouldn't happen nearly as often as it does.

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