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Some women love to criticize or nag their man. The case may be because of tension in a relationship due to reasons such as finance issues, stresses from outside sources, lack of affection and sex. Nagging can come from feeling dissatisfied, under-appreciated or hurt. We women think that nagging or criticizing will actually help a man. Nope, it doesn't. It works just the opposite. At some point your nagging words aren't even words that come out of your mouth, but instead just a noise or tone that has no meaning but hurtfulness. Your partner at this point no longer listens to what you say. The thing is, no one wants to be criticized or nagged.
Most men want a few simple things in a marriage or relationship which are appreciation, kindness and sex. That simple. Therefore, if you are nagging your partner he surely doesn't feel appreciated, and criticizing isn't kindness, which equals to no sex.
Instead you need to communicate. I'm sure your man is smart enough to understand a simple request or asked help. After you ask, give him time to get to it. A reminder is okay, but ask with kindness. No one wants to be taken for granted or be mistreated. If you are feeling that way, you need to understand why this is happening, instead of belittling your partner. The answer is communicate. The goal is to keep a relationship happy and united.
My ValSecrets is, there is a certain tone that comes with nagging. Drop that tone. If something bothers you that much I suggest wait till you can speak rationally. When you are nagging they don't hear what you are saying, they just hear nagging. Criticizing and nagging is not effective, communicating is.
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