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Sex Day One

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Sex Day One

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So your out to dinner with this guy. The food is great, the conversation is amazing, hes funny, you cant stop laughing. So far so good. Your really attracted to him, and get the feeling hes attracted to you also. You leave the restaurant, and go out for some drinks. Next thing you know your in his car, kissing. Things begin to escalate and all you can think about is sex. Question is, should you? Well, from a males perspective, the answer, quite simply and honestly, is no. As much it may seem thats what he wants. Its not. For guys, its all about the chase. If you give it up on the first night, the hunt is over. From then on your, "that girl", not "girl friend". What a guy wants, is to go home wanting more. Give him something, just not everything. Keep things interesting. You want him to begin liking you, not the idea of sex with you. At the same time, you dont want to push him off of you for too long, he may lose interest. So in conclusion, from our side of things, if you give it up on the first or second night, your not girl friend material. Period.

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MTodd

341 Days Ago

When it's right its right. My buddy recently met a woman, was a huge man-whore, they slept with each other the first night and that was it, been together ever since and he just bought her a ring and the planning has begun. They are just the "one" for each other.

Val

857 Days Ago

I am going to have to agree with Dax.

dax

857 Days Ago

I disagree... I think it all depends on how he sees you from the beginning ( yes, there are cases where u can change a person's view of you over time ) if he sees you as a potential long term mate, u can sleep with him an hour after seeing him.. or u can sleep with him that same night and it won't change much. If he sees you as just a lay.. you can make him wait a week or two and he will still dump you after it.. cuz from the beginning he saw you as just a lay... I think it has to do more with chemistry and each person's personality than a rule.

enasni

887 Days Ago

It could be true... either way... guys should be willing to wait for sex if they truly like you and want you, for more than just sex... so have patience, it will find the best.

JennAllison

1031 Days Ago

For me, I haven't had sex in a long time, no one has interested me. But, I do go with what I feel. Since I got for years at time w/ no sex, sometimes all I want is a sex with a really hot, cool, smart guy...that i just met He has to have great qualities for me to even go that far. Other times, I'll meet amazing guys, but I'll be out of town & there is no time to really build a connection, so nothing happens, bc I am not feeling it. I am pretty proud of myself that I can go for 2 yrs at a time, several different times in my adult life & not have sex. I don't just hook up to hook up. I am also not searching for a relationship. If I want to have random sex, I don't want to be thought of as a slut. i want to say, don't you know how ling it's been???? it's time. haha Anyway, I am not trying to do what I think will get a guy. I do what I feel & I like that.

Cat201

1038 Days Ago

I agree with Storm. If a women is interested in having a relationship with a man she is dating she should wait until a connection is formed. It takes time to get to know someone and really connect with them. Most men that won't judge a women for sleeping with them on the first night are not looking for something serious. I do agree that every situation is different and that many people do end after sleeping with each other on the first date. There are always exceptions. If a girl gives it up too quickly most men will think - how many other men did she do this with. If a girl sleeps with a guy too soon guys most likely will lose interest. Guys like the chase.

Storm4200

1039 Days Ago

meet the famous....i think shes interested

Val

1039 Days Ago

I agree with you Ulysses!

Ulysses

1039 Days Ago

When put to the test a man will sometimes wait months for a woman to "give it up." Of course, he is often sleeping with another girl(s) as well. Sometimes when a guy is patient with a woman, he's not necessarily highly interested in the girl; he may just be patient - and rather busy. There is no set rule on this issue. Every man and every situation is different. Some men, especially those with low self-esteem, judge easygoing free-loving gals harshly. Other men will embrace a gal who passionately lives for the moment. Then again, it's true that many men enjoy a challenge - the chase, but SOME of these men lose interest when the chase is over. A woman must use her brain and intuition and some guesswork to determine what kind of man she is dealing with. The first date is probably (BUT NOT ALWAYS!) too soon. And waiting too long is definitely a buzz-kill. Again the woman must judge if the right time is 2 - 3 dates or 2 hours (LOL). Life happens fast and there are many choices for men and women. If passion doesn't express itself in a relationship fairly quickly the man or the woman may move on. What is quickly? In Smalltown, USA maybe it's 5 weeks. In NYC maybe it's 4 days. In Miami it seems to be 3 hours. It is tough decision for a woman who feels a strong chemistry. What's the good news about diving into the sheets? If a man has sex with you several times and still enjoys hanging with and sharing real conversation with you then he is probably interested in you. But please note, "I want you right now, baby," is not a conversation.

Val

1040 Days Ago

Stay tuned Meetthefamous.. I will vlog about it

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