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I come from a close knit family. My parents still being in-love, my brother, sister and I always being best friends, and our cute crazy pets always in the middle of everything is what is normal to me. Of course when I was younger I took it for granted, not really understanding how special it is to have such a strong bond in a family.

When I got older, I started to date and put myself out there to find a different kind of love, I thought to find a love that would love me forever, like my family does. I was disappointed. I felt that love turned it's back to me. Most people's expectations are high and expect a perfect match. Sometimes in the midst of dating and having serious relationships you start to lose hope just because they never turn out the way you think they do. IF you are still quote on quote looking for a perfect partner and have begun to worry that this guy isn't out there.. Don't fret. Through my life experiences I realized that there isn't a perfect mate, nor is there a perfect person.

True love is when you accept the person's flaws. I learn that through my family. We love each other because we love all that we are. We argue, we fight, but we never hold grudges and forgive each other in no time. My family taught me to stick through the good and the bad times. I plan on having a family as close knit at mine one day and therefore my future husband should desire this as well.

My ValSecret to you is ; If you are in a relationship or looking for one, make sure that this guy has the same desires and the same understanding what family means to him. Be understanding of his flaws and learn to love them if you want a family that is a good example for your children one day.

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MissAmanda

313 Days Ago

I have come far from a close knit family. My parents split when I was just 2 months old and from there on my mother indulged herself with a new partner and a new child. Once that marriage didn't work she continued her routine until she finally settled down with a man who she is happy with yet she is still this day unsure about. I feel that coming from this type of background really makes me open my eyes to the type of future I really want in life. I tell myself through good or bad better or worse the one that loves me as truly and deeply as i love them will be my best friend and future. Regardless of having a tight knit family I know from a broken family that I want different for my future. I want my children to rely on me and know their mother and father will always be there. I want to be able to turn to my husband 50 years down the road and say "we did wonders". In todays society there are, with out a doubt, more broken families then close knit ones and many children from those families tend to follow in their parents footsteps. I want a family of everything I did not have and finding someone who really understands the meaning from death do us part, in the mess of society, may take a while but aiming and praying for that makes me proud that I will not settle for anything less.

Jason74

853 Days Ago

I agree, timing is key when finding your future husband/wife. Along with the loving feelings you have for each other, you both have to be in the same place in your lives and be mentally ready to move to the big step of getting married. When I met Tara, and started dating, I was looking for something more serious and I knew she was serious when she asked me if I could see myself married in a year. We had some obstacles in the beginning such as both of still living at home with our folks and then living in her sister's basement before we could move into our own place. Despite these things, we were determined to make it happen. One of the big things I always tell people is how important family is in a marriage. No one will be there for you more than your family. That was the clincher for me with Tara - how well I got along with them. I'm not saying you have to neccessarily find someone from a good family in order to know they're marriage-material, but in my case it was huge and I think it can only help.

JAMIELYNN

1029 Days Ago

I also come from a tight family, and agree with Val and Heather. Knowing who you are and what you want will help you find true love. You need to love yourself to allow someone to love you completely. Sometimes family is a great foundation for understanding love, but sometimes it is not. No matter what type of family you come from you should always expect the best for you, and if you need a positive example, I suggest looking toward a mentor or a friend's family for an example of unconditional love.

HMarino

1035 Days Ago

Coming from a close-knit family myself, I totally agree with Val. Unconditional love is loving someone for their positive traits as well as their flaws. My Dad is the most loving, generous, and caring man to my mom and my siblings. He is the prime example of unconditional love and has taught me over the years not to settle for anything less in a guy I am involved with. Being single at 28 years old, some women may feel panicked to get married and have kids ASAP, but not me. I refuse to settle for anything less than someone who makes me feel loved as a complete person (flaws and all) and vice-versa. I never really realized this until recently, but as much as I'd like to say I want my life to be different than my parents' in many ways, I'd be LUCKY to one day have a close-knit family of my own just as I had growing up. My advice to all you younger girls out there is know who you are as a person first and you'll find someone who loves the true you.

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