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We all feel taken advantage of from time to time. Maybe a friend has taken you for granted or borrows every stitch of clothes you own and never returns them.
Your psuedo-boyfriend asked you for money because he in a bind, and you being really nice give it to him, yet he never repays you or maybe you text him because your upset and he ignores you for days.. we have all been there, maybe more than once.
Feeling taken advantage of implies a feeling of injustice or inequality. We start to resent the person, the situation, and ourselves for allowing this to happen. Even with years experience it happens to all of us, I myself just had a revelation and had to take a stand, and believe me it sucks. Here are some tips to save your integrity.
You need to be assertive, clearly stating what you want and what behavior you need stopped. You need courage, you need to stand up for what you feel you deserve
( even from a pseudo- boyfriend ) and have the courage to SAY it to that person.
Explain in plain text what need to be addressed, don't dance around it, tell them they are rude, selfish, abusive, disrespectful, cold-hearted whatever it may be.
Learn to say NO. SAY YES TO NO !!! This is diffucult since we by nature want people to like us, want to help people. Set ground rules, and if they are broken, you got to get out of the friendship or relationship. WALK away, with some self - respect.
Everyone is guilty at one point in their lives of being A DOORMAT FOR SOMEONE. You need to be true to yourself, you need to act with self- love, it may be hard to get out of the situation because YOU allowed it to go on for so long, but it is never too late to regain control, and not be someone elses doormat...
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